My friends and I had an interesting argument the other day. I can’t remember the conversation that lead into it. Regardless, my friend “Denise” said that when she looks at a person she assumes that there is a 50% chance that that person is having sex. I thought that was completely ridiculous and another friend of mine jumped in to back me up. We claimed that you could get a fair idea of whether it was more or less likely a person was having sex.
Yes, it’s an odd conversation, but let’s do it.
Denise argued that everyone has a life of their own with countless details unknown to you. She had sonder, the realization that every random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own. Given all this complexity, Denise believes there is no way to know if a person is having sex. There is just too much to consider. Thus, you can only say that there is a 50/50 shot a person is doing the deed. After all, even if you know a person on a personal basis, they could be keeping secrets from you. Your best buddy could’ve acquired all the world’s STDs without you ever knowing.
My friend and I argued that despite all a person’s secret complexities, oftentimes, you don’t need to scratch below the surface to see the truth. As horrible as it may sound, you can judge a person by how they look and automatically assume whether or not they are bumping uglies with someone. Sure, it is terribly objectifying to rate a person on how they look. But meh…screw it. On a scale of 1-10, the 1s definitely aren’t getting any and the 10s definitely are. You might also assume that the 2s aren’t getting any and the 9s are. The closer to 5/10 you get, the less sure you are. Regardless, the point remains that sex is a carnal desire based on physical appeal.
Fine. It’s not that simple. People in relationships are more likely to have sex, and relationships aren’t based solely on physical attraction. True, but relationships are based in large part on physical attraction, so you can assume that the more attractive you are, the more likely you are to be in a relationship, and the more likely you are to have sex. That just goes along with the trend set up above.
Additionally, you can look at how a person carries himself. People love confidence. Confidence says, “Hi, I am a mate that can protect myself and make myself happy, so I can definitely do the same for you and any children we might have.” So a guy who walks with his body erect, his gaze out in front of him, and his shoulders swinging proudly is obviously a confident person. Thus, he probably attracts more girls and probably has sex. Meanwhile, a guy who walks with his head down, hands in his pockets, and his shoulders slouched over his body doesn’t appear confident. Therefore, he probably attracts fewer girls and probably doesn’t have sex.
Even so, there are a lot of variables to consider. I’m probably oversimplifying, right? For example, what I consider to be a 7/10 on the scale of attraction might be different for someone else. That makes total sense when you think about people’s preferences. Someone might have a soft spot for redheads, and someone else might prefer blondes.
But…physical attraction usually isn’t that subjective. What I consider to be a 7/10 probably isn’t someone else’s 3/10. More likely, my 7/10 is someone’s 6/10 or 8/10. Actually, 5 of my friends looked at random pictures of 10 people and rated them. I know…small sample size and blah blah blah. Whatever. The largest difference in ratings was 3 points. But most people gravitated around the same number and rarely drifted past 1 point.
Tell me what you think.